Monday, May 17, 2010

International Day against Homophobia and Transphobia

Hello All,

May 17th... It's a special day for all of us... 
I hope that one day (soon enough), homophobia becomes a word "our" kids (lol) would only check its definition in the dictionary for it is no longer seen nor practiced in real life...

I stumbled upon a magnificent letter a mother of a gay boy wrote to the Valley News concerning the homosexual menace in Vermont (April 2000). You might have read it or heard of it before, but here's the link for it... It's a great one! It meant so much to me - I think it would mean something to you too.

Here is an extract of my favourite part:

  "In high school, while your children were doing what kids that age should be doing, mine labored over a suicide note, drafting and redrafting it to be sure his family knew how much he loved them. My sobbing 17-year-old tore the heart out of me as he choked out that he just couldn't bear to continue living any longer, that he didn't want to be gay and that he couldn't face a life without dignity.

  You have the audacity to talk about protecting families and children from the homosexual menace, while you yourselves tear apart families and drive children to despair. I don't know why my son is gay, but I do know that God didn't put him, and millions like him, on this Earth to give you someone to abuse. God gave you brains so that you could think, and it's about time you started doing that.

  At the core of all your misguided beliefs is the belief that this could never happen to you, that there is some kind of subculture out there that people have chosen to join. The fact is that if it can happen to my family, it can happen to yours, and you won't get to choose. Whether it is genetic or whether something occurs during a critical time of fetal development, I don't know. I can only tell you with an absolute certainty that it is inborn.

  If you want to tout your own morality, you'd best come up with something more substantive than your heterosexuality. You did nothing to earn it; it was given to you. If you disagree, I would be interested in hearing your story, because my own heterosexuality was a blessing I received with no effort whatsoever on my part. It is so woven into the very soul of me that nothing could ever change it. 
  For those of you who reduce sexual orientation to a simple choice, a character issue, a bad habit or something that can be changed by a 10-step program, I'm puzzled. Are you saying that your own sexual orientation is nothing more than something you have chosen, that you could change it at will? If that's not the case, then why would you suggest that someone else can?"

 Love & Peace


Oliver said...

that letter was really touching. :)

wayner said...

Hi Sammy. I know you are working hard for exams and I hope it is going well. Yes, that letter says it all. Homosexual people come from mostly heterosexual families and the ignorance and stupidity of anti-homosexual attitudes is obvious. Homophobia (and other sexual phobias) should be an embarassment in civilized society. The world has problems with over-population, global warming, pollution, nuclear proliferation, and wars, but let's rail against two same sex people who love each other. Here's reality; 'As I grow older and older and totter towards the tomb, the less and less I care about who sleeps with whom!' bfn - Wayne :) (study hard!)

Eye said...

The whole being a desition thing is a big deal... I'm not sure what to think about it, but she's right, if they're going to say that gay can turn straight somehow, then they should embrace the chance that THEY could become gay the same way, lol

and when you say "April 200" is that a year or a hypothetical day 199 days after april first? (I kno it's a mistake, just kidding)

B. said...

WOW, this is sooo amazing! I'm speechless... SHe's such a great mom... omg... So awwwww